When people start turning up for themselves, guess what happens? Other people turn up for them! It's this really crazy notion that we grew up with thinking that we can't put ourselves first, so we start serving other people which is really noble, but we often do it at the cost of our own health, our relationship with ourselves and our happiness. We often never ask ourselves what do I want? Do I actually even want to be here right now? Where do I sit on my priority list?

Magnetic Confidence has hit another milestone. The Impact of Mindset has now hit 52 episodes! An entire year of interviewing people, sharing my raw and real messages about how your mindset impacts you and how you can improve it. I’m so proud of how the podcast has gone and I’m looking forward to seeing more people fall in love with it over time. To celebrate this moment I want to pause and enjoy the highlights of the past year.

October is Mental Health Awareness Month in Australia so I thought I’d share my journey with mental health to demonstrate the importance of the need for a perception shift in what mental health means. Like everything I talk to clients about its best to be raw and real to take full ownership of what is and how you can change it. So here is my very real account of how society influenced my attitude towards mental health and how developing my awareness changed everything.

When you get stuck in life the best advice you can ever get is to make the first move. Often, we wait for perfect conditions, we wait for our emotions to be completely changed to something happier, but we ignore the benefit of finding something that can impact our mindset way sooner than we would think.

The key to being magnetically confident is to develop your authenticity, because the more authentic you are the more likely it is that people are going to engage with you. People recognise something beautiful in authenticity- awareness, humility, self acceptance and honesty. They know that with an authentic person there is no second guessing, they can simply enjoy someone’s company without wondering about an agenda, who they really are or needing to impress them because they know the only way to impress someone is to truly be yourself. This eliminates stress, creating ease for those individuals the confident person engages with which makes them even more magnetic. So how do you develop the authenticity to draw people closer to you on a daily basis? Here are my 10 steps to Developing Authenticity.

I am so excited to share with you that I am starting a family. On September 28 I will finally get a puppy I have wanted for 18 months. It has been a long wait, but it has come together perfectly. To be completely honest I am quite emotional about it all.

Your habits are the foundation of building confidence. Confidence is built on our mindset and our ability to feel competent at what we do. Every day we habitually do tasks, some that help us and some that hinder us. When we master the art of habits we can increase our results in our life, improving our health, happiness and success. The more habits we conquer the more confidence we feel because each of these habits require consistency and commitment. You aren’t going to feel like always doing the things that are important to you, it will require grit. What I’ve established is that my clients typically have a mixture of helpful and unhelpful habits. I wanted to enable them to achieve greater success to reach higher levels of performance and health so I created Habit Coaching.

In 2020 I moved to Toowoomba, I started full time teaching again while running a business and I loved the choice I made to move but something was missing- I missed being in Brisbane, the friends I had made, the events I could go to and the networking I did regularly. My Sunday salsa nights had spoilt me, my regular meetups too so I found myself trekking down to Brisbane on the regular. In this time I found my second home- the Swissbelhotel and boy do I miss it.

Over the past 18 months we have had several lockdowns, we are used to this. These snap lockdowns (especially in the case of Queensland) still come as quite the surprise but we are not novices to how they operate. So how can we reduce the impact these lockdowns have on our mental health? Honour you in the lockdown.

Goal setting is a great tool to help us achieve what we want but it is null and void without accountability. So how do we ensure that we are accountable to achieve the goals we set for ourselves? There are many ways you can do it but in this modern era I believe the best ways are harnessing the use of technology so that we maximise what is already in our hands whilst rewiring the reasons why we engage with tech. This way we don’t perceive ourselves as doing something extra and we can harness the power of positive peer pressure. This is why I created the Daily Journal.

One of the values at Magnetic Confidence is to seek growth. Seeking growth is really important at making it confidence because we know that life doesn’t always come easily.

We all have busy lives and the reality is that's not going to change so it's about accepting the fact that life will continue to be busy and we will continue saying, ‘wow time is flying, we are almost at December already’ until we learn to really live in the moment.

On January 4 we launch the podcast impact of mindset. It was incredibly exciting to begin the journey into podcasting for the very first time and interview people that are inspirational have great insight into their own self-awareness and can really motivate other people with their stories.

Since January 4 we have had 25 episodes and I’m incredibly pleased about how well it has been received. I first started preparing for my podcast back in October 2020 I had no idea how much I would fall in love with my podcast. The reality is that podcasting lights me up, I really enjoy having conversations with other business owners & high-performers and I adore getting great feedback from people about how they loved interviews with different guests that they really got something out of the content that would be producing as part of the podcast.

I got sucked in by the Rockwear sale. It’s really not hard, the company is incredibly inclusive, caters for women who have curves and is super down to earth. So needless to say when they have a sale I find it takes a lot of self control not to buy new workout gear. With Toowoomba hitting 0.3 of a degree when I rose at 5am to workout earlier this week it just made sense to purchase more tights.

Years ago, I thought my greatest dream was to become a professional footballer, then at the age of 22 I was faced with the reality that I would have to work multiple jobs while also completing a heavy training schedule 3 hours away from where I lived on a regular basis, all because female athletes were paid measly wages. This combined with my desire to be a mum before I was 35 felt like a pressure cooker of decisions that directed what I would do next in sport. Not wanting to give up motherhood for sport, nor a career I had only just started I stayed with my career and stepped away from trying again to make it happen, it helped that an epic injury followed later that prevented me from playing football again. Looking back at those decisions now as a single, 35 year old it all feels ironic. I cannot change the decisions that I made, and I don’t have regrets, but I do want to share what I have learnt about chasing high performance in sport for upcoming athletes and parents that endeavour to support them.

Self-care is what keeps me sane, without self-care I cannot look after anyone else and as a coach that is everything that I do so essentially if I get it wrong, I cannot do my job. This is a distinction I think is important for anyone who works in the health and wellbeing space to get. Self-care is the foundation for your business.

So, are you looking for inspiration for how to practice self- care? Here are the things that I do to look after myself on a regular basis.

In our cars neutral just lets our car stay where it is, we don’t move forward or backwards, but it does allow our car to turn on without it going backwards. When life is tough, we need to put ourselves in neutral. Neutral gives us a place to operate with where we can go forward and to be honest, like a car, once we are here we are more likely to move forward than we are to go backwards.

How many times have you participated in exercise where you felt better afterwards? Many, right? This effect is proof that mental health is also physical. For generations we have spoken about mental health as if it’s a separate issue but it isn’t. Society knows that when we exercise we feel better, our mood is better, our productivity is better and our success is greater, so why don’t we treat our mental health as part of our physical health?

This year I decided to get out of my comfort zone and get back to playing community sport by joining my local AFL team, the Toowoomba bombers. I wanted to step back into social sport again for my health benefits and to fill the social void I know I would feel being my own boss. So far being associated with the South Toowoomba Bombers has been fantastic for that. I really wanted to share with you what it's been like me learning how to play AFL because it's the definition of getting out of my comfort zone and I’m absolutely loving it!